A business associates' partner committed suicide on Wednesday and I have been thinking a lot about it. My first thoughts were wondering whether he had a wife or kids. That it is Christmas time. That someone had to find him. And then I started to notice the ripples. First of all those people who are directly affected; his family. The first ripple of people whose lives are forever changed by his actions. The partner who had to tell me the reason he hasn't gotten me the signed document. I began to see how his death affected people who didn't even know him. Me who can't get the document. The bank that requires the document to cut the checks. The subcontractor who needs his check in order to give his guys their Christmas bonus. The guys who won't get their Christmas bonus.
I certainly don't mean in any way to say that any of us are as affected as the people who knew and loved this man. I just couldn't help but notice how many people who didn't even know him were in some tiny way affected by his death. Not emotionally or long term. But somehow affected.
Then two days later to see how that ripple has faded for those people. The document is signed, the bank cuts the checks, the subcontract gives his guys their bonuses. For all of them there was just a second where things didn't go as planned. But then their are the people whose lives will never be the same.
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I have also thought of 'ripples' quite a bit as I deal with the choices that my teenagers make and how they think it only affects them but if really affects the whole family, their friends, teachers, the bishop and the list goes on and on. It was a different twist though to hear it affect a business, bank, or co-worker. So true that many of us quickly forget and move on after the 'inconvenience' when others will never forget.
I have a lifetime of ripple effects in my own life, from myself and from others. Some good, some not so good.
It's so true. I've heard that suicide is the ultimate selfish thing a person can do. It is the easy way out - no one promised that life would ever be an easy thing. Heaven knows there have been a few times in my life where I considered it, at the very least, wanted to be freed of life's sorrows and pains. And thank God, that He saw me through those times. I was single at those moments, and now that I have 'dependent' people on me, I would NEVER consider it again. You just find a way to plow through, and hope the ripple effect you leave behind will be better than those had you chosen to leave.
I have a best friend whose husband killed himself. There's not much to say when someone does that - everyone is left with such questions and sadness and pain. Perhaps not as much pain as the person who committed the act - they are in for more disappointments even after taking their own life.
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